We’ve all seen the headlines on magazines and the promos for TV programs that claim to help you achieve “balance.” I have often talked about balance in my blog. For me, balance means finding your equilibrium – mind, body and spirit.
But today, more than ever, we’re competing in a fast-paced, driven playing field. Women business leaders, by nature, are extremely focused and our success is often attributed to our extreme dedication. Yes – extremism. I think trying to find some order and balance sounds wonderful, but how can that be accomplished while practicing professional extremism and being a driven and goal-oriented leader?
I often wonder what would happen if, after I have committed to complete a task or tackle a new project, I came to the conclusion that what I really wanted was more balance and less extremism? This notion could be alarming. What if I don’t succeed? What if I can’t perform? If I stop and evaluate my commitments, distill what has to be done versus what I feel driven to do—would I still be as successful?
Let’s assume that we really do need balance within a focus-driven life. Here are some of my personal short-cuts to creating a Zen-like experience, even for just a few moments, while living a frenzied life.
- Create some rules for yourself –
Create a clear set of parameters that you will and will not do. This could be as simple as reserving one hour in the morning for you.
- Find a person who believes in you and supports whatever you do –
This could be a trusted work partner, friend or business mentor. But it must be someone who will validate your decisions and understands why you make them.
- Be a Diva –
Even if this is only in your mind. It could mean saying “no” or saying “I want…” It can be choosing NOT to do something you think you “should” do.
- Find someone who will be unflinchingly honest –
You must completely trust the person charged with this task emotionally and professionally. Only in a trusting, giving relationship will this work.
- Do something daily that takes you away from your driven world –
Perhaps your serenity comes from reading a poem, meditating or simply watching the ocean. The key here is that this does not involve any form of achievement or challenge.
Finding your own balance will be a rewarding and extremely beneficial experience. And once you experience your own moments of balance, I think you’ll find even more energy to focus on your business goals.
For more on achieving work-life balance, read Roxanne’s blog on Avoiding Occupational Burnout for Women Business Leaders, or type “lifestyle” in the search bar to see all of Roxanne’s blogs on that subject.